Losing a loved one, whether that be your partner, friend, or family, to the wrong side of the law is always a terrifying experience. If your loved one played an important role in your life, the transition will be difficult. Everyone copes with this experience in a different way, but it’s crucial to take care of yourself. Although it will be tough, you can learn to create a new life while your loved one is locked away. And if they are able to qualify for bail, ABC Bail Bonds can grant them a speedy release, so you won’t have to recreate this new lifestyle for long. In the meantime, here are some tips so you can cope with your loved one in jail.
Stay in the Moment
Don’t try to think about all the years that are to come without your loved one standing next to you. It can be very daunting, and instead of helping you devise a plan, it will stress you out. Take it moment by moment, and tackle each day individually.
How do you do this? Try to concentrate on the task at hand. For example, if you are cooking a meal, focus on the chopping of vegetables and take in the delicious scents. Don’t let your mind wander to something else. Focus on the sensations your body is feeling, not what’s going on in your head.
Create a Budget
Although you should stay in the moment, you also need to devise a plan for how you will handle the finances. If your loved one played a crucial role in the finances, then you might need to start the budget from scratch. You might need to look into working extra hours, picking up a second job, requesting a raise, taking out a loan, etc.
You will also need to consider the extra costs of supporting your loved one in jail. Will you set apart money for them to pay for items in the commissary? How much will it be? You will also need money for making phone calls, visiting them, and even adding money to their account comes with fees. Try out a budget for a month and see how it works. If it’s not working, you can always adjust it.
Take Care of Yourself
You are going through a grieving process and it is okay to feel mad, sad, confused, frustrated, and all the emotions in between. But don’t forget to take care of yourself along the way. Exercise, eat healthy, have a regular sleep schedule, continue to do your hobbies, and talk to people. Don’t close yourself off. Emotional support is vital.
Join a Support Group or Speak with a Grief Counselor
Find others that are going through a similar time and exchange experiences. Realize that you are not alone and be emotionally available to each other. Or, you can make time to speak with a grief counselor too. You need someone that can listen to you now more than ever, and who can guide you through it.
Get Your Loved One Out of Jail with ABC Bail Bonds
Having a loved one in jail will never be easy. That’s why, if they are granted bail, don’t hesitate to reach out to our bondsmen. We know the ins and outs of the justice system and we can grant your loved one a speedy release. Get in touch with us today, so we can get working on the case immediately.
